Adaptations

             Change?  It happens.  Progress?  We hope for it.  Evolution?  An obvious truth.  We live in a world which never stops moving.

             In my family, we are non-traditionalists.  For calendar holidays, we work, while others celebrate.  I can’t count the number of Thanksgivings where we’ve gathered on the following Sunday or Monday.

             This past week, for a Sunday event, we got together, in various combinations throughout the day and night, on that Thursday before.

             In the past few days I’ve had personal emergencies, unexpected tragedies, and plain old life situations, all of which have caused me to approach my current journey in a new (different!) and unaccustomed way.

             Why all of this?  Because, if we don’t

make adjustments

we die.  We cease existing in our physical form.  We falter, and often feel as though we’ve failed.

             This message is about acknowledging that “yeah, this sucks” but it doesn’t need to stop us from continuing.  It is not necessary to flounder, never to rise above.

            All of this doesn’t mean I’m not down.  Truthfully?  It’s been full-time residence in Depression City.  There’s great waves of sorrow.  Sadness and grief?  Fully present.

             Whatever are our individual circumstances, it simply proves that we CAN move forward in the face of . . . . . . of nearly any fucking thing that gets thrown at us.

             Do we want to rise above and be the better person right now?  Oh, hell to the no.  Are we able to?  Yep, pretty much every damn time.

            We can, and we do.  After.  After some reflection.  After some sobbing.  After adjusting and recalibrating, we can move forward.  We can survive.  We can (eventually!), once more, even thrive.

            (Just, ya know, give us a minute here.)

             As validation, and as a reminder of our strength, we are presented with this, a stone of great power.

acceptance and grief

“turquoise  ~

speaking one’s truth, clear communication, purification

Don’t be afraid to speak your truth.  A situation that is causing you concern can easily be resolved by simply expressing how you truly feel.

You will not hurt nor upset anyone by speaking your truth.  In fact, speaking your truth has the opposite effect to what you think.  

By communicating your feelings and preferences clearly and honestly all concerned will be relieved.  At present, others are rather confused because they sense that all is not the way you are purporting it to be.

This magical Turquoise crystal will help you ease any fear you have regarding clear and true communication with either yourself or others.”

Today’s Deck:

Crystal Oracle Cards by Toni Carmine Salerno

 

 

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With Confidence

             While I definitely believe in the “if you don’t like it, change it” theory.  I also have to wear this body and live in the real world.

             There’s just been a wee bit too much REALITY in my life the past week.  Sometimes I find it difficult to manage.  I become overwhelmed with it all.

             This is where my being a person of great faith comes in quite handy.  I know, with all of my whole and entire self that where we are, on this planet, in this plane of education, is truly just a stopping-over point.  I know, with all that I am, that we will get to go Home (eventually).

             Here is where this one took me, here is the word that rang out the loudest:

trust

             The Universe brings us reminders:  rainbows after a cleansing storm, babies after hard labor, presents we didn’t expect.

             The gifts are there, the messages being delivered, it’s our job to find them, to decipher them, to accept them, to receive them.  To be grateful for them.

             Often we struggle.  And that’s part of the process, too.  But in the end, we heal.  Sure, we sometimes go on to cycle around and have similar challenges.  That is another level of our lesson, spiraling ever upwards in our quest for Improvement.

             The WAY we learn, the WAY we manage, that’s key.  That’s where we are better able to see our path, to use our tools, and find the peace we seek.

             I was directed to this lovely validation.  When turmoil seems never-ending, we must remember that the solution will always arrive.

louise hay

“I am at Peace

Divine peace and harmony surround me and dwell in me.

I feel tolerance, compassion, and love for all, myself included.”

             At our own discretion, obviously.  Some folks maybe don’t warrant any kindness, currently.  But, WE sure do!  (And I, personally, am entirely at Peace with my decision to grant compassion where I see fit.)

Today’s Deck:

Power Thought Cards by (the late, great) Louise Hay

Today’s Inspiration:

is a view I found on Instagram, it’s both D.I.Y. and spiritually uplifting.

path to peace

The rocky road home.

 

 

 

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Another Kind of Day

             We’ve never been a family who understood the TGIF mindset.  For generations we were the weekend and evening workers.

             We covered all shifts, we were there when other folks needed time off for holidays with their loved ones.  It’s how we were raised, it’s what we instilled in our children.

             So, it throws me off when I unintentionally end up with a Sunday off.  It also reminds me of how important it is to rest.

             I mean, I know it.  I live for it.  I’m just not always able to do it.  To do it with intention.

             All I have to share today is this:

take care.  Of yourself.

             It’s okay to say “no” when you feel like a request is simply too much.  It’s fine to be selfish.  Because in truth, you are NOT.  You are caring for someone who is valuable and precious.  You are caring for You.

             It can be ANY day, and it doesn’t have to be expensive or commercial or extravagant.  But do make it special.  For you.

perfection

             This is perfection.  For me.  Please find something which speaks to you.  And pursue it.  Sit with it.  Be there.  Be You.

 

 

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Waiting for the Better

             I found out a little while ago that Kathy Griffin lost her sister to cancer today.  It was kind of my last straw on a very challenging afternoon.

             Every year now, I expect that this week (and my birthday week) won’t take me down.  And every year, for the past decade, I’ve been hit hard.

             This post is mostly a placeholder.  Just to let you all know, I’m here and I’m going to make it, it’s just so fucking hard.  Grief is stupid and I’m sick of it.

             Take care of yourselves, and each other, do something that feeds your soul, even if that means feeding your body.

             We can only keep showing up, and that’s enough for now.

 

 

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The Enlightenment Process

             Last night I had to set aside a book without finishing it.  This is a difficult action for my Virgo brain to handle.  Also, and maybe even more difficult, is for my Highly Sensitive soul to read about sadness.  I was initiating a compromise alone, with just me.

             The good part though, is that *A* had recently recommended an authour who she thought I’d enjoy.  My library didn’t have the exact title, but a different one, which was conveniently in my tote bag, so when I put the discarded item there, I found the other.  Turns out, that’s the precise volume I needed to be reading.

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On the cover?   DOLPHIES!

              I haven’t fully investigated her website yet, but it appears to be an excellent resource.  What I got from all of this process (and about the first one third of that book) will be the basis for our message today.

Relieving Suffering = Accepting Freedom

             It’s the words; we need to clarify our definitions.  Because “suffering” is not what our brain first jumps to.  And the concept of “acceptance” in the zen training is not at all about giving up or admitting defeat.

            In reality, we are letting go of what hasn’t worked all along and we’re now comprehending that this is where we are.  This is who and what we need to take credit for and acknowledge.  No negative connotations, no struggle.  Simple acceptance, leading directly to freedom.

            Putting up a fight only makes us hot and angry.  Allowing the freedom of mindfulness to be at the front of our conscious now gives us, instead, a peaceful joy that ripples out.  Spiraling up and spreading to everyone else.

             I’m in the middle of learning how to do this.  The journey is not smooth.  But, every once in a while, through the trees and clutter of life, there are glimpses of a beautiful and serene view.  I also, more often than not, see Hope from here.