Recently I had an informational questionnaire to fill out.  It was one of those with Male/Female boxes you need to check.  This bothers me every time I run across it.

             Occasionally there will be a 3 choice option: Male/Female/Prefer Not To Answer.  I always mark the last square and then search around to see who I can thank for their consideration.  Usually the person who constructed that particular form can’t be located, so I send them my gratitude mentally.

             Marketing and our overly-consuming cultural mind-set are generally the top reasons behind asking this question.  It can’t possibly be necessary for anything other than trying to sell me shit that I don’t need, based on my identified/perceived Male-Female-ness.

             (Obviously I’m excluding medical issues here, and referring to non-emergency situations.)

             What I woke up with this afternoon brought all of these thoughts to mind, because it’s apparently a topic we need to share and address.


             By which, our message means, labeling in this way should not be anyone’s top priority.  Being a decent and caring “person” is the most value quality.  Not what box we put an X through.

             Those “this or that” selections have no importance, no more than what color our skin is or who we’d like to date.  NONE of it matters!

             On our card altar, back within our regular rotation again, this visitor has arrived to perfectly validate today’s point.

oracle cards, no gender, messages of love, high lady of love and compassion

“The High Lady of Love and Compassion  ~  1  ~

reverence, kindness, consideration

When the High Lady of Love and Compassion chooses to be your Ally, she brings you a deep and meaningful message; she reminds you that only Love is real.  It is the sole unconditional and true power behind all means of manifesting out of the unseen into the material.

Love’s greatest creative power is ignited by the conscious action of compassion.  Generosity of the heart, reverence, respect, and empathy for all living things bring you profound power to live a life of happiness and contentment.

Love, compassion, and kindness to all must be the impulse behind your thoughts, feelings, and actions when your intention is to create a prosperous and abundant life.  Unconditional Love will be returned tenfold.

The High Lady also reminds you that when she chooses to be your Ally, she brings evidence that you are loved.  All manner of synchronicity align in your favor.

If your question/situation refers to a relationship, you’re required to think of the other person and inquire what is in their highest good.  Give selflessly without asking for or expecting anything in return, and let go.  What is yours will come to you.  

Kindness always returns somehow.  You will surely receive that which you give . . . in more ways than you can imagine.”

             Not much I can add here.  So, I’ll simply say that when we think in a positive way, we know that we are also promoting positivity.  The counter to that, unquestionably, is with negative thoughts, actions, and words.

             Everything has power, as does everyone.  No matter who we are or what we call ourselves, or what label others apply to us.  We are our own individual selves, and that has power, too.

Today’s Deck:

Wisdom Of The Hidden Realm Oracle Cards by Colette Baron-Reid

Today’s Sharing:

is a box (deck?) of cards based on THIS BOOK that I ran across while waiting for an appointment last month.

oracle cards, the power of now, eckhart tolle
Randomly chosen example.

             It looks like they are no longer in print, so now I have to find them used.  I’ll keep you posted.  (This may take a while, you all know what a terrible Googler I am.)

8 thoughts on “Our Insides, not what’s on the outside.

  1. Wait for it… I just saw a news feature showing how stores are putting cameras in the shelving so they can watch us choose our products. And some stores are also linking to our smart phones when we come in. Then when we’re near certain products, will send coupons to the phone to get you to purchase a particular product. I so don’t like any of this.

    1. Ah, but think of the fun you could have running directly from sensible shoes to automotive to lingerie to toys…

  2. Very interesting message today. I have come across several people in my social media realm that have posted a, well, poster discussing cisgender in a rather humorous way. is the link. I also (on same social media realm) will often play on those “what character from this book or that movie are you” and am surprised by the difference when I indicate either male or female on the “test”.

    Sometimes I choose to interpret “I prefer not to say” as “none of your freakin’ business” as well.

    Thanks for the link, PERFECTION!

    10:54 p.m.

  3. While I definitely feel very female, and I notice people’s gender the same way I notice people’s color and more obvious ethnic traits, when I refer to someone, I don’t say “she’s a wonderful and talented woman”; I say “she’s a wonderful and talented person.” That’s my natural go-to perspective. It seems weird referring to gender in such a context, as if she’s extra wonderful and talented because of being a woman (“you hit really hard for a girl”), so my mind resists going there.

    I generally identify as female, just because I am and have no need/interest/idea that identifying as such might be limiting. But it can be. it puts you in a box. My parents were bizarrely gender-specific in their raising of me and my younger brother — it even boggles other people’s minds — so you’d think I’d be more sensitive to it. But then, it took me years to get comfortable with actually identifying as female, so that might have something to do with my comfort level with it now.

    I love the card! I’m working hard on love and compassion.

    I never thought/think of gender, mine or anyone else’s; it’s just not a thing that my brain has ever focused on.

    10:55 p.m.

    1. I have also always identified as female, and have not really thought in depth about gender, much. I tend towards the butch side of lesbian (again, how I identify myself) and my Mrs. is the more androgynous type. I have a maternal aunt who identifies as lesbian, and I believe I had a paternal great uncle who was gay. My nephew identifies as a poly queer man, and our niece identifies as genderqueer, who is in a relationship with a trans man. Through them I have become more educated about the other ways of being.

Comments are closed.