Instinctual.

             The healing continues.  But wow, it gets quite heavy at times, so much to struggle with/through.  I met with *K* this afternoon.  Still discussing grief eating and this whole “3 traditional meals a day” situation.  Yeah, lotsa work.

             Her office had a hand-out on their bulletin board that was pretty interesting,  so I thought we should all look at it together.  It was long, this is a condensed version, go HERE to get the full-page view, and NEDA website credit.

“Ten Steps To Positive Body Image

  1. Appreciate all that your body can do.
  2. Keep a top 10 list of things you like about yourself.
  3. Remind yourself that ‘true beauty’ is not simply skin-deep.
  4. Look at yourself as a whole person.
  5. Surround yourself with positive people.
  6. Shut down those voices in your head that tell you your body is not ‘right’ ….
  7. Wear clothes that are comfortable and that make you feel good ….
  8. Become a critical viewer of social and media messages.
  9. Do something nice for yourself ….
  10. Use the time and energy that you might have spent worrying about food, calories, and your weight to do something to help others.”

             It’s not like we don’t know nearly all of this already, especially those of us (ME!) with such a long history of disordered thinking when it comes to food and ourselves.  This version was just done really well.

             What did NOT go well was our channeled message.  My dreams were confusing, and not entirely super restful.  So when I woke up, I had a hard time pinning down the words we needed.  But, I got there.

Contacting with compassion,

even as open-minded as we strive to be,

there is always room for improvement.

              The image that came immediately to mind was what I (mentally) saw right before I left the bed.  Neighbors (fictional ones) were not who I thought they were/who they appeared to be, so I needed to step up the kindness level, the caring.

             The feeling was about how we really don’t know enough, on the surface, to make any judgement or decision.  Simply smiling and being nice can be the best move.

             On our card altar, back to our regular rotation, we are (again) reminded that intuition is the best form of guidance.  All of the key words here are validating, connecting theses messages charmingly together as one.

oracle cards, intuition

“The Swan Queen  ~  13  ~  information, intuition, patience

The Swan Queen glides your way and asks that you look at your reflection in the events of your life.  She gives you the ability to see the beauty that has transformed your life from ignorance to wisdom.  The Swan Queen lets you know that it’s time to go within and seek the answers in your intuition.

Don’t look outside yourself for answers now; the true power lies reflected in the still waters within you.  Now is the moment to meditate and ask for a vision.  The power of psychic perception is inherent in you, and the Swan Queen will help you dive deep into your query to find the answers you seek.

This is also a reminder to allow time to transform ideas into reality.  Nothing happens overnight.”

             It was so freaking hot today (pushing 96 regularly since last weekend), I’m just going to stare at her snow for a bit, and soak up the cool.

Today’s Deck:

Wisdom Of The Hidden Realm Oracle Cards by Colette Baron-Reid

Today’s Mileage:

was to the library and to my appointment.  But there was so much damn road construction and stupid traffic that I rode much farther than I usually do for the same destinations.  8.524 miles in 50 minutes 10 seconds, with a (not-bad for the circumstances) fairly zippy average of 10.1 MPH.

Today’s Sharing:

comes straight from my Hurricane.  She had the top news story on KOMO this morning.  Because she was there!

dick's in seattle, macklemore

Can you spot her?

             My girl is the small (standing) silhouette on the very far left side (who is caught live tweeting in this view).  She didn’t get much sleep, but that’s become part of the job.  I worry about it constantly.  And encourage her to nap.

4 thoughts on “Instinctual.

  1. Go Hanna!
    I just posted a blogpost that is a short follow up on something from Julia Cameron’s book, The Writing Diet. I know you were interested in that.
    One of my compassion challenges is this – I still sometimes catch myself lamenting over someone’s lack of acceptance of me as I am when clearly; I am not accepting them as they are; and there is nothing saying they owe me acceptance.
    My friend Bruce always says – the only thing you can expect of people is that they will be who (or what) they are.

    ~
    Your Bruce is very wise,
    as I have found,
    they usually are.
    J

    8:45 p.m.
    7-26-13

  2. NEDA’s website is such a really, really great resource, in general. Everyone should visit it, whether they’ve struggled with disordered eating or know someone who has.

    Here are a few other real good sites you might also like, Mamacita:

    Healthy is the New Skinny is great and they have a really encouraging FB page. The founder is a natural model (it’s like plus but is really more just “everyone-sized) and has an agency. SO COOL. I interviewed her once. She’s rad: http://healthyisthenewskinny.com/

    Anyone who has a younger (like pre-teen-aged) girl should DEFINITELY check out/send her to Proud 2 B Me. It’s NEDA’s tween-aimed project and it’s awesome. Their whole campaign is to end body-snarking. Really cool:
    http://proud2bme.org/

    Every single thing Claire Mysko says is brilliant. She wrote a book about body image and pregnancy, but has also been really open with her own struggles to remain body-positive. She’s also very kind and cool. She’s got a great Twitter feed that is FULL of info:
    http://clairemysko.com/

    Something Fishy is THE definitive site for ED recovery links and resources, especially for family. BUT it can be real triggering so proceed with caution/support. http://www.something-fishy.org/

    Ok! End soapbox. I have about a zillion bookmarks on the subject and they can be really helpful.

    xoxoxo see you soon mamacita

  3. Yes, we cannot expect others to accept us as ourselves, because they bring their own issues and perceptions into the mix. But accepting ourselves is still the most powerful thing we can do for ourselves. And maybe that can affect others’ perceptions as well. I do struggle with simply accepting myself, all the time. It’s very cool when I spend time with people who accept me better than I accept myself.

    Cool story! Yeah, I had heard about the Macklemore thing, as a concert, not as a video. Good article!

    ~
    It is most definitely a process!
    J

    8:51 p.m.
    7-26-13

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