This is not the first time I have talked about death, the Other Side, and our blueprints for life (nor will it be the last). But it was interesting today because I had already planned on discussing this, and then when I looked at the card we got, it just gave me that lovely stamp of validation. I’ve said this before, JulieLand is a place of love and we tolerate all beliefs here. There is no judgment and there is no hatred. However, it IS my place, so we go with what is in my heart, and my memories.
I’ve read a lot about these subjects, studied with folks who have many years of practice in it, and have lived in such a way that I’ve been able to see shit others maybe have not (or don’t remember they saw anyway). I know there is something beyond the death of our bodies. I know this because I remember it. I know this because I feel it solidly in my soul. I know it because I have read about and talked with others who know it too. This is the point we are going to jump off from. If you do not have these same beliefs, that is perfectly fine.
The theory is that we come and go, in bodies, to live our lives here (and some other places). It’s like school, we arrive to learn our lessons, then we go Home. Hopefully we have done well, because the ultimate goal is to NOT come back. Usually we have to come back a lot though. Before each trip we sit down with our loved ones, our guides, our chosen helpers, and we map out what we want to accomplish this time around. What we will struggle with and what will be non-issues. (This is another post that I touched on this particular topic, in case you missed it the first time around. It will open to a separate page so you can go read it and not miss anything.)
So we get here, with our chart all mapped out. We have a plan in mind, and we have help executing this plan. We also have what are called “Exit Points” sketched in. These are the places where this particular life could come to an end, depending on how our lessons are going. I think Sylvia says there are like five or seven of these. Now, this whole “blue print” of our lives is WAY more complicated than we can even begin to imagine from where we sit, here with our Earthly brains and bodies.
There are so many more factors involved, not to mention opportunities and people. But the basic concept is that we have general points me need to meet, interactions we need to become involved in, and relationships we need to be a part of. Our Exit Points come up, we subconsciously see them, and either elect to take that “out” or pass it up, taking another one down the line. Here’s where it can get sticky. Suicide is NEVER on the menu as an Exit Point. It just never is. And yet, it happens. People choose it.
That’s the free will aspect of our mapped out plan. Unfortunately when that choice is made it really throws off the blue print. Since it’s not an Exit Point we have designated, it tosses the soul off its track, pulls the soul from its journey before it can complete the life an individual needs to live. I had a dear friend who did this. And I beat my damn self up over it for years. I was convinced that I could have saved him from this. That was incorrect.
Hardly anyone can stop this from happening. It is one of the only times when a person is making decisions alone. Often it is an imbalance of chemicals in the brain that drives this movement, as though the brain has become severed from the soul, the malfunctioning body has taken over. It becomes a very ego-centered and selfish movement. It is not a spiritual choice, because once a person has gotten to this point, they are no longer in touch with their guides, helpers, and loved ones that have worked so hard to assist with staying on the path. It is the most extreme example of fear based reactions.
When a person gets to that level, of fear and desperation, all the love that could have helped them has already been disregarded. They have stopped being connected with their higher selves. They have turned off the radio and yanked the plug from the wall. It is not that their chart was so overloaded with shit that they couldn’t handle it, it is that they have stepped away from their support system and have shoved the blueprint out the window.
When we stay connected to those around us, whether on this physical plane, or the helpers we have with us all the time in a spiritual sense, we are still learning, we are still connected. It’s when we give up on that help, when we turn our backs on those around us, that we lose our grip and we fall out of our lives. I believe there are no mistakes. Ending our own lives, stopping our lessons, is still not so much of a mistake, as it is a mis-step. We do learn from making this decision, selecting this as an option, but we don’t learn the best way, the way that was intended, by ourselves or by whatever you refer to as God or the Universe. We just have to do all the same things over again, and with the added burden of tossing everyone else’s lives off the mark too.
In Christian belief systems this action is a sin. In most religions and cultures it is discouraged (to put it mildly). In the Pagan frame-work it is just hugely disappointing. The immense hopelessness just covers us all when a life is taken this way. One of my cousins was of a mind-set that this would be beneficial. She didn’t see that there were so many other ways for her to get the love and attention she so desperately needed to keep going. Desperation is another key to these incidents.
The person looking at this as a choice has become desperately disconnected, for many different reasons. No matter whether it is chemical or not (which it usually is) this option is almost never something the loved ones left behind are responsible for. Once that break has been made, once that desperation and fear has set in, the person has severed the link he or she could have used to bring them back on track. It’s painful, it’s heart-rending, it’s so so so unnecessary, but yes, it does happen. It has happened in the lives of nearly everyone I know. It has happened to people I love.
What has helped me, over the years, to resolve this pain and this sad feeling of WTF, is my secure knowledge that every one of those people who went that far, have a chance to try again. They all have the opportunity to come back, learn their lessons, and eventually join the rest of us at Home. It is just going to take them much more time.
“Compassion ~ Archangel Zadkiel: ‘Soften your heart with respect to this situation, and all the people involved, including yourself.
I can help you forgive yourself and others, or to compassionately see everyone’s point of view. You needn’t chang your stance or behaviour. It simply means approaching the situation with a loving heart, which empowers you and allows creative solutions to pour forth.’
Working with Archangel Zadkiel: Zadkiel’s name means ‘Righteousness of God’ and he helps us release unforgiveness toward ourselves and others. Ask him to come into your dreams and act like a chimney sweep, clearing away any emotional toxins from your heart. He will ensure that everyone’s needs are met, and that emotional healings occur in miraculous ways.”