Tonight I want to talk a little bit about feelings, communications, and actions. It is a sad fact that no matter how genuinely pure our intentions are, they will sometimes become lost in translation. To communicate perfectly is nearly impossible when deep emotion is involved. Trying to get a clear message, from one person to another, in the heat of the moment, can just raise the level of tears flowing and jumble our words into incoherence. Precisely the opposite of what we want to convey becomes the unfortunate, but inevitable, result. Throw a Mercury retrograde into the chaotic blend and all we get is more confusion.
There are relationships that run off the rails continuously. Always it’s with someone we have strong feelings for. Often it is with someone we are very similar to, which seems wrong, because you’d think arguments or emotionally charged discussions would happen more amongst conflicting/differing personality types. But really, have you ever imagined having a sobbing fight with yourself? It would be a disaster. And pointless besides. This is how misunderstandings are born. Then grow and mutate and endlessly cycle around. Emotions mask clarity. No other way to put it.
To clearly state your position you need to leave the feelings aside. Set them over there, for later use. Come back to the topic with a solid idea of what you need to express, and then get it out there. Be brave and be honest. Be humble and take claim for your faults. Act according to your heart and conscience. Acknowledge the mistakes and harsh words of each individual. Forgive. See through the eyes of the love you have for the other person. Apologize. Then get on with living.
The way to break a pattern like this is to look at it, and address it. See it for what it is, and then stop repeating it. We learn from our mistakes only if we recognize that mis-steps are being made. Forgiveness and honest assessment, no matter how painful, are the only things that can cease this kind of pain. Watching a relationship circle around a drain like a flushed toilet won’t help anyone. Dragging it out into the open, without the clouding emotions, is the most beneficial method for putting things right.
Well, once again, it’s not a wonderful picture. But you can see that I am continuing to enjoy the gift from my Hurricane, and am subversively cross stitching my little heart out. Are you familiar with Alton Brown? He has a show on the Food Network, Daniel and Empress are great fans. One of the things he says is “wash those chicken-y hands!” I put this on a lovely dish towel for Dan. (Em wants one too, so I’ll do anther in the next few days.)
Our card today (which I originally drew yesterday, before my world crashed down around my ears) is perfect and helpful. As if it would be otherwise. (Also, just as a magical aside, I did not even look at what I flipped over or read the definition from the guide book before I wrote today’s post. It all just happened to fall into place like this.) Let’s enjoy it and learn from it shall we? And take our own advice, moving forward and leaving our sorrows behind us (hopefully never to be repeated again).
“Clairsentience ~ Archangel Raguel: Notice your recurring physical and emotional feelings, as they signify Divine guidance.
Please honor your feelings. Don’t be afraid of deep emotions or intense feeling. I can help you distinguish between your own feelings and those of others. I’ll also help you clear any energies you may absorb. I will guide you toward people, situations, and places with clear and loving energy. Your repetitive emotions and physical feelings provide important information, so please notice and follow these feelings. They are answers to your prayers. Ask me to help translate confusing messages so that you will clearly know which steps to take.”