Our time is not entirely our own when we are parents. That’s just a fact. And being a parent never goes away. Parenting is more than a job, it becomes a part of who you are. It helps to shape who you become but it is not ALL of who you end up being. We’ve been discussing these things here in The Burrow lately. By “we” of course I mean me, Dan, and the witchlings.
The Universe has evidently played some part in initiating these conversations because today’s draw ties into yesterday’s oh so neatly. Which means we need to go back and look at some of the key phrases from our Amethyst message. (By the way? I love the way the name of that crystal sounds when we say it.)
“Just be yourself and understand that there is nothing in your life to fix.” This was powerful, as were a few of your comments too. I have to agree that it takes much time and energy to explain our individual-ness to folks who don’t understand at first. Often this is a teaching opportunity, but other times, it’s simply a pain in the ass that we don’t have the patience for. That decision is up to us, in the moment. What I think is NOT a choice is whether to live a genuine life.
Going about our lives in a false and inauthentic way is soul killing. (Not literally, obviously, but it’s a nice turn-of-phrase, so I’m not going to edit my self elf there.) When we stand tall and wear our weird with pride we make a statement. We are honest. We are true to who we feel is inside our skin and who we want the world to see.
Should we be greeted with hostility* or negative reaction then we must stand TALLER and be PROUDER. Are we harming anyone by our honesty? No. Then there is no reason, in my mind, to live any other way.
*If you are in actual physical harm, that would be different, in that case dial fucking 911.
I can be pretty judge-y, and we all know how freaking vain I am, so what I mean by being genuine may have different definitions, depending on your situation. To me, there are always times when we can teach the ignorant. My tattoos, my car, my shoe choices, and my piercings all do that on a physical level. How many cop’s wives do YOU know look or act like me?
In a spiritual sense I like to instruct even more. It may be slightly warped of me to get such a large bit of enjoyment from it, but hey, here I am being honest. Pointing out, at every available opportunity, that we are NOT all the same religion and do NOT all have the same belief systems is sort of like a form of entertainment. But, that’s just me, you may find fun in other places.
Speaking of fun though, here’s your Daily Dog. This was taken yesterday while he was waiting for his girl to get here.
Our Empress is doing that dog/house sitting gig this week, so he gets some Nana time when she’s at work. Which, just to keep you updated, is going quite well. She was born to be a groomer! Or a whispererer, whatever, same same, one just has more tools.
On our card altar this afternoon I chose to photograph the back of this one. The front was simply harsh feeling. You get the same image this way, only more background-ish.
Own your magnificence.
The world needs your brilliance and grace.”
When Daniel and I ended up with three kids (no, they were not planned, necessarily) we stayed true to who we were, hopefully passing these attitudes onto the children we co-created. Being genuine to ourselves is the beginning, continuing to be genuine out in the world, as we learn and grow and develop, is the rest of the journey. Doing it with integrity, and as our message says today, Magnificence, is one of the gifts of living a true life.
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